Communication, Mindset & Vulnerability

I often find myself questioning my thought process and my mindset. Is your thinking a product of your own beliefs or of the society you were conditioned in? How much of you and your mindset is really you, and how much has been influenced and shaped by your environment? I’ve realized the importance of spending time alone and living away from home for a while when you’re young, for it helps you choose what you nourish your mind with. You start developing your own ideologies, methods, ways of dealing with elation and stress and life in general. Having that personal code to face life with plays a major role in long-term success, as you know yourself and know what you’re capable of. Once you realize your value and your worth, the question shifts from settling with what’s available to striving for what you aspire. That shift is essential for real growth.

On a personal level, I treasure beautiful minds. I love the feeling you get when you are midway through a conversation, and you can feel the person opening up and letting you in. Once you’re in, you realize how much treasure is hidden behind misguiding appearances. In a single conversation, you’re able to experience life through someone else’s eyes, come face to face with their insecurities, ambition, dreams and failures alike. If the person is set on inspiring and changing lives, that beauty is tenfold.

There are people who have had transformative experiences and strive to live a life that has meaning. Once you discover what ‘meaning’ means to them, you are able to unleash their most sacred possession and develop a real bond with them. The people who feel everything deeply, are the hidden gems of the society, as their intense take on life, can help you live several times in the same lifetime. For them a failure is not an end, a victory is not a celebration, for every morning they celebrate life and every night they end their day in bliss. Bliss that comes from knowing that you gave the day your all, you faced it with resilience and made it through.

These are also the kind of people who know that if they protect their mind, then they have the ultimate control. So when you try to step into their zone, they’ll flinch several times before you make it inside their circle of trust.

I’m writing this for I finally acknowledge the fact that most people live their lives emotionally shut down and stunted. Don’t try and conceal the beauty of your struggle, for every life is a battle of its own. Be better because of your journey, and don’t let the outside ‘noise of happiness’ fool you into believing that struggles aren’t universal. Everyone is fighting something, everyone craves for something more- that’s just how life is structured. While I admit to not being vulnerable enough, I realize that the best conversations that I’ve ever had, are with the people who let others in. I’m challenging myself to be more open and honest, and I hope this inspires you too.

Communication is strategic everywhere- be it business, relationships or networking. Rather than trying to be the person who’s got his/her shit together all the time, it’s better if you admit when you don’t. It helps in creating an environment where you can co-creatively address issues and arrive at solutions. Being more vulnerable personally, will help you thrive professionally by improving your skills of communication.

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Questions that I’ve been working on

Most people set out and spend their younger years looking for answers to make sense out of life. I was obsessed with figuring life out too, but a recent realization left me wondering if it is ever about answers at all?

I’ve discovered that it all comes down to the right questions for our own, unique selves rather than the set list that the world sets for us. How can all of us be given the same questions when our capabilities and personalities are each unique? We must proactively create a specific line of questions for ourselves, our lives, tailored to our goals and ambition.

I’ve arrived on some questions for myself, that I’m constantly thinking about, almost obsessively. I feel comfortable sharing them, as I’m doing real groundwork on them, and have now aligned my focus completely to the questions I created for myself.

Question 1: What work should I be doing that will create a significant impact on generations to come? How do I create an organization that shelters and protects my employees and their families’ futures?

Laying a strong foundation based on people as its pillars is important to me, as it is integrity, generosity and ambition that I respect the most. Giving people an atmosphere to grow, to feel secure in, not only for themselves but also their kids is what I’m trying to build. If, in this life, I’m able to do work that empowers and creates prosperity for the people involved for decades to come, I will feel that I’ve had a meaningful life.

Question 2: How do we make technology accessible on a grand scale? 

Our biggest problem is also our biggest opportunity in this case, as it gives us a chance right now, to build the future world. I do agree with Peter Thiel when he says that technology  is the most significant force of our times, even more than globalization. I’m crazy optimistic about our future, but that optimism has to be constantly fueled by work done in the field, we need more lives to feel the positive impact of technology.

Question 3: How do we create new resources that benefit the society? What issues do we need to be working on?

Advancements and progress as a society come from taking bold steps to create a different future. We need to be unraveling new truths, new technologies and new methods of doing things.

Question 4: How do we educate and create jobs for the current generation, while planning for our future generations?

Is the work that we’re doing protecting interests of our current generation? Also, is our plan in place to create a secure future for the next generations?

Question 5: How do I use Aqaya to create prosperity through empowerment?

Aqaya means Eudaimonia, we’re building on ideals of belonging and benefiting others, flourishing, thriving and exercising excellence. How do I create multiple avenues and streams to attract the best talent to benefit people in huge numbers?

Question 6: How do I create and access a platform to interact with the brightest minds of our time?

I’m a firm believer in the fact that what differentiates the most successful and sharpest minds from the masses is their consistency and access to a different wave of information. My efforts are aligned in meeting and interacting with the best in their fields so that I’m always fed quality information.

Most people aspire to lead a certain kind of lifestyle or become a certain someone but don’t want to put the work that demands to be input. Creating ‘something’ (could be anything) while you’re here, is the easiest way to try and leave a mark and legacy behind. In other words, you will only be remembered for your own unique creation, so what’s going to be your contribution to our history?

I’ll close this with something I wrote to myself recently, “How differently would you live if you truly believed that limitless possibilities were under your feet? Better start living that way, cause they are! Your dream is as scalable as your mind believes it is.”

How to beat competition every time.

Your ambition has to be greater than the sum of all your fears, inhibitions and doubts put together. You won’t always believe in yourself, but make sure that those moments are far outnumbered by the ones that you feel invincible, almost unstoppable- even when it feels unreal, especially when it feels unreal. Winner’s minds go further than most people’s realms of imagination.

My loyalty is to excellence.

I’m committed to becoming the best that I can be. My vision is of reaching my higher potential, forever evolving for the better. As I meet people I judge them on the basis of their ambition- not their bank balance, and definitely not their appearance. If you’re hungry to go after what you want, if you’re committed to your vision, and if you’re striving – I’m going to hold your hand, and support you till the very end.
I really believe in energy. Everybody we see or meet is bouncing off energies from the walls- what we gotta do is try and catch how they make us feel about ourselves. There are certain people who will leave you feeling drained and tired- the smartest thing is to stay clear of them, for their energy doesn’t resonate with yours. For people who leave you feeling happy, feeling like you’ve got to become a better person- spend as much time as you can with them. But know the difference between people who are trying to compete with you and the ones who wish to see you do well.
As much it’s important to have meaningful relationships, the most meaningful relationship that you’ll ever have, is with your own self. You gotta protect your vision, safeguard yourself from toxicity and negativity that some people will try and add to your life. The whole goal should be to be loyal to your inner being and not get distracted by what happens externally. For one thing will always remain true- nobody expect your own self is going to want the better, the best for you. You’re on your own journey and while people may love you unconditionally, you gotta respect your own self enough to be loyal, committed and focused.
What inspired me to write this post is the feeling that it is easy to get distracted by what people around us, especially our competitors are doing. If you keep looking in the rear-view mirror, you lose out on the opportunity to get further. Keep creating the best content that you can, do the best you can, so that you can feel content because of your efforts, and are constantly fueled by your own motivation rather than somebody else’s performance. Let the others play catch-up, while you show them what potential and capability can do. You have a reality that is your own, and have a life that you can tribute to through your wholesome contribution, keep striving and be loyal to your personal excellence!

Live forwards, no regrets!

Limits don’t exist anymore, I look at bad and good as merely circumstances rather than life states. You just gotta know that everything in life is transient. Perhaps, I’ve seen the transition too many times, going from quiet and low nights, to beaming and glowing soulful mornings. After experiencing drastic changes over a night’s time, I’ve come to realize that life is always moving forward, and it is our choice to either move along with it, or wither and fade away. My runs in the morning make me appreciate the nature to an extent that is almost transcendental. I feel like I get this window of a sweet escape where I’m absolutely capable of achieving anything, as I’m one with the whole Universe. I have clear visuals of being one with the cosmos, of breathing with the life forms around me and exuding extreme power. Moving to Delhi was a tough call, I was consciously making the decision to leave behind a life of comforts and build it all from scratch. No clues, no resources, no help, just a blank canvas- with the luxury of being able to adorn it however I wanted.

I am experiencing a paradigm shift within me now, I’m aware of it because I’m really introspective. I have found this unidentifiable source of energy within me, that’s making me appreciate life in a way I would’ve never before. I genuinely see the light in the eyes of the kids on the streets and I feel happy when I see exchanges of love in public, or like that time when I went to the dogs shivering in the park where I was running and put a piece of cloth next to them so that they could be warm. I smile to myself, I cherish love and kindness around me. I’ve picks three qualities that I look for in people- ambition, integrity and generosity, that simple! I want to associate with people who have a vision to make it grand, are honest and sincere and are willing to give back for this beautiful gift of life. Most people miss out on dreaming big and philanthropy because they set limits on everything, they never realize how the only thing holding them back is themselves. I am attracted to that rare species that lives to pursue excellence and aims too high. I doubt there’s someone who loves socialising more than me, but the truth is that there’s only so many conversations you can have about this season’s latest collections and next vacations- I like digging deeper to find hopes, aspirations and the real soul behind the facade.

Truth is, when you think like the way I do, you’ll often be questioned and challenged but then it’s better to be true to yourself than live somebody else’s life. I enjoy this pursuit of knowledge and excellence, where I’m constantly expanding my horizons and exceeding personal bests. I guess this kind of consciousness only dawns after having faced certain levels of adversity- but I hope you at least try to get rid of the inhibitions that hold you back. Some mornings I wake up and think about how my life has taken this unconventional and unplanned track, but then I say to myself, “Live forwards, no regrets.”

Be kind, be compassionate, respect people’s emotions, aim high, give back, seek, explore, learn and live without fear. That might sound cliched, but man, life starts where fear ends. Exactly a year ago, I was in a dark place, and I told myself that 2014 was going to be MY year, for myself and I think I’ve done surprisingly well by even my standards. Launched a company, moved out of my parents’ place, living off my own earnings, building exciting models with start-ups, teaching Zumba, meeting incredible people, long distance running and there’s just so much more that I accomplished in this past year! The only focus for this year was growth and personal development but guess what, this was only the warm up- game time is NOW!