Communication, Mindset & Vulnerability

I often find myself questioning my thought process and my mindset. Is your thinking a product of your own beliefs or of the society you were conditioned in? How much of you and your mindset is really you, and how much has been influenced and shaped by your environment? I’ve realized the importance of spending time alone and living away from home for a while when you’re young, for it helps you choose what you nourish your mind with. You start developing your own ideologies, methods, ways of dealing with elation and stress and life in general. Having that personal code to face life with plays a major role in long-term success, as you know yourself and know what you’re capable of. Once you realize your value and your worth, the question shifts from settling with what’s available to striving for what you aspire. That shift is essential for real growth.

On a personal level, I treasure beautiful minds. I love the feeling you get when you are midway through a conversation, and you can feel the person opening up and letting you in. Once you’re in, you realize how much treasure is hidden behind misguiding appearances. In a single conversation, you’re able to experience life through someone else’s eyes, come face to face with their insecurities, ambition, dreams and failures alike. If the person is set on inspiring and changing lives, that beauty is tenfold.

There are people who have had transformative experiences and strive to live a life that has meaning. Once you discover what ‘meaning’ means to them, you are able to unleash their most sacred possession and develop a real bond with them. The people who feel everything deeply, are the hidden gems of the society, as their intense take on life, can help you live several times in the same lifetime. For them a failure is not an end, a victory is not a celebration, for every morning they celebrate life and every night they end their day in bliss. Bliss that comes from knowing that you gave the day your all, you faced it with resilience and made it through.

These are also the kind of people who know that if they protect their mind, then they have the ultimate control. So when you try to step into their zone, they’ll flinch several times before you make it inside their circle of trust.

I’m writing this for I finally acknowledge the fact that most people live their lives emotionally shut down and stunted. Don’t try and conceal the beauty of your struggle, for every life is a battle of its own. Be better because of your journey, and don’t let the outside ‘noise of happiness’ fool you into believing that struggles aren’t universal. Everyone is fighting something, everyone craves for something more- that’s just how life is structured. While I admit to not being vulnerable enough, I realize that the best conversations that I’ve ever had, are with the people who let others in. I’m challenging myself to be more open and honest, and I hope this inspires you too.

Communication is strategic everywhere- be it business, relationships or networking. Rather than trying to be the person who’s got his/her shit together all the time, it’s better if you admit when you don’t. It helps in creating an environment where you can co-creatively address issues and arrive at solutions. Being more vulnerable personally, will help you thrive professionally by improving your skills of communication.


Questions that I’ve been working on

Most people set out and spend their younger years looking for answers to make sense out of life. I was obsessed with figuring life out too, but a recent realization left me wondering if it is ever about answers at all?

I’ve discovered that it all comes down to the right questions for our own, unique selves rather than the set list that the world sets for us. How can all of us be given the same questions when our capabilities and personalities are each unique? We must proactively create a specific line of questions for ourselves, our lives, tailored to our goals and ambition.

I’ve arrived on some questions for myself, that I’m constantly thinking about, almost obsessively. I feel comfortable sharing them, as I’m doing real groundwork on them, and have now aligned my focus completely to the questions I created for myself.

Question 1: What work should I be doing that will create a significant impact on generations to come? How do I create an organization that shelters and protects my employees and their families’ futures?

Laying a strong foundation based on people as its pillars is important to me, as it is integrity, generosity and ambition that I respect the most. Giving people an atmosphere to grow, to feel secure in, not only for themselves but also their kids is what I’m trying to build. If, in this life, I’m able to do work that empowers and creates prosperity for the people involved for decades to come, I will feel that I’ve had a meaningful life.

Question 2: How do we make technology accessible on a grand scale? 

Our biggest problem is also our biggest opportunity in this case, as it gives us a chance right now, to build the future world. I do agree with Peter Thiel when he says that technology  is the most significant force of our times, even more than globalization. I’m crazy optimistic about our future, but that optimism has to be constantly fueled by work done in the field, we need more lives to feel the positive impact of technology.

Question 3: How do we create new resources that benefit the society? What issues do we need to be working on?

Advancements and progress as a society come from taking bold steps to create a different future. We need to be unraveling new truths, new technologies and new methods of doing things.

Question 4: How do we educate and create jobs for the current generation, while planning for our future generations?

Is the work that we’re doing protecting interests of our current generation? Also, is our plan in place to create a secure future for the next generations?

Question 5: How do I use Aqaya to create prosperity through empowerment?

Aqaya means Eudaimonia, we’re building on ideals of belonging and benefiting others, flourishing, thriving and exercising excellence. How do I create multiple avenues and streams to attract the best talent to benefit people in huge numbers?

Question 6: How do I create and access a platform to interact with the brightest minds of our time?

I’m a firm believer in the fact that what differentiates the most successful and sharpest minds from the masses is their consistency and access to a different wave of information. My efforts are aligned in meeting and interacting with the best in their fields so that I’m always fed quality information.

Most people aspire to lead a certain kind of lifestyle or become a certain someone but don’t want to put the work that demands to be input. Creating ‘something’ (could be anything) while you’re here, is the easiest way to try and leave a mark and legacy behind. In other words, you will only be remembered for your own unique creation, so what’s going to be your contribution to our history?

I’ll close this with something I wrote to myself recently, “How differently would you live if you truly believed that limitless possibilities were under your feet? Better start living that way, cause they are! Your dream is as scalable as your mind believes it is.”

Wisdom = Knowledge + Integration

As an entrepreneur and someone who wants to experience a lot of life, I’ve come to a conclusion that’ll help me stay sane in all of the noise.

You see, when you’re always venturing out into the unknown, trying to meet new people, finding out latest advancements and trying to always be on the lookout for new experiences or what the future’s going to look like, you start missing out on the present moment. ‘Mindfulness’ as they’d call it, and I’d read tons about it, hit me in the face this weekend when I found myself unable to focus at all. You might have experienced the urge to pick up your phone every 15 minutes, getting distracted in the middle of writing an email and completely missing out on an hour sometimes just because of trying to learn ‘new’ things. 

I don’t say present moment, like a guru, but as someone futuristic always trying to look ahead. Where do we draw the line between ‘thinking ahead’ and ‘living the now‘? Why are we constantly losing out on our lives and on what’s really happening? When did it become more important to ‘look like you’re having a great time’ than actually and truly enjoying yourself? It’s a shame that sometimes we forget to realize, sit back and adopt lessons from our learning, as we’re unconsciously devolving to the level of a gold fish.

The ‘missing key’ to everything we learn and actually experiencing or implementing it in our lives, is the fact that we do not integrate. We’re always learning new things, consuming more knowledge, and midst all this new information and facts we forget the fact that the only useful information is the one we choose to integrate into our daily routines.

It is pointless if you know something and don’t use it. I’ve got a hundred books on the book stand next to my bed, and I’ve read most of them however, the shame is that I don’t necessarily remember the essence of the books, or what I liked the most about them- cause I just focused on getting through the pages, not digesting what I read. As we go through life, I think it’s more important to keep coming back to the things that matter, the principles and the fundamentals. What do you actually believe in? What did you really learn from an experience, from your day or your interaction with someone new?

I’ve learnt the fact that we constantly need to evolve through integration and implementation, and I hope to changes things from here on. I will take time to integrate my new learnings. Less is more, when you use the less to your advantage through action. Whatever you might learn, be it in the day or during your week, take some time to see how you can fit it into your life. What differentiates knowledge and wisdom for me, is integration, and I’m going to be mindful of this from here on. 

4 MYTHS about WORK!

Most lifestyle entrepreneurs first found inspiration after reading the book “The Four-Hour Work Week” by Tim Ferris, so did I. You can find the details and reviews on the Amazon page here

However, the title of the book does not resonate with what he actually wants to convey. The title was selected primarily because of the most hits it got on Google Adwords test. In this post, I want to discuss the myths about work..misery, happiness and life in general.

“The Three Most Harmful Addictions Are Heroin, Carbohydrates, And A Monthly Salary.”- Nassim Nicholas Taleb

^ One of my most favourite quotes ever!

Myth 1: Work is only a 9-5 corporate job.

No, let’s redefine work as Tim defines it, and now I define as = anything that you either want to do less of or do solely for the financial benefit.

Work is anything that will bring you the financial support you need to live your life. Anything that helps you achieve that support, is work. However, people lose track and start confusing financial support with a ‘dreamy’ bank balance. Sure, you have all the liberty in the world to aim at building or acquiring the highest level of wealth there is, but don’t choose to do that if your work is not fulfilling. Most things done purely for money, don’t provide fulfilment;  Most fulfilling things you’re truly dedicated to, provide money. Why chase fulfilment? Just because, on your very last day you would want to see that your life was fulfilling and meaningful rather than spent doing things you did chasing money. Chances are, if you love your work, it won’t feel like work at all.

Myth 2: You need to spend your life building a resume.

No, you need to spend your life doing work that actually matters and something that you care about. If you delay to do those things, you are missing your opportunity to lead the life you are here to live, because you are simply choosing to stick to the ‘rules’ or being ‘too normal’. You choose to settle so as to have an excuse to avoid putting yourself out there, taking a risk because you are scared of achieving your personal and unique dreams. Ask yourself, what are you trying to add things/experiences to your resume for? If the answer isn’t to bring you closer to YOUR own ambition/goals, then you are missing the shot at life.

Warren Buffett said it himself: Doing things to build your resume and get experience is kind of like saving up sex for old age. Life’s too short to build a resume. 

“You are not your resume, you are your work. “ – Seth Godin – and chances are many people’s resume are going to look identical; how do you make yours different? By being YOU and by doing YOU.

Myth 3: You have no freedom, time, life.

You are the decision-maker, get behind the wheel and start making decisions for yourself. You are already free, start acting like it! There is nothing more belittling than feeling like your life is governed by the things around you. You can choose to spend your time better, you can choose to be happy and more importantly you can choose to live. Sure, there are constraints that come with different jobs, but if it’s not letting you be your best self, chances are it probably isn’t the best job for you. Look for opportunities and ways to do things you actually think make you grow, don’t settle.

Myth 4: You need to ‘postpone’ happiness. Work now, live later?

“Conditions are never perfect. “Someday” is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it’s important to you and you want to do it “eventually,” just do it and correct course along the way.” – Tim Ferris

If you’re putting yourself through misery now, aiming to enjoy after you retire, or later, then you’re deferring your own right to happiness. Work should be exciting, challenging and something that makes you grow not dream-murdering, unsatisfying and depressing. Most people on their death-bed wish to have done things they would’ve done all along but just didn’t see it then or make enough time for it. Don’t wait for life to happen to you, take steps and create the life you want to live. I’d rather have mini retirements now, visit friends in different continents, learn, have life-changing experiences, all while making money NOW, rather than waiting inside my cubicle for the next 20 years, to get promoted.

I’m young now, I’ll only live once- and if I get it right in these next few years, this one time is going to be enough. My decision to become a lifestyle entrepreneur comes from this deep-rooted desire to live an incredible life. I want people to think of me as someone who did not take the conventional route, made mistakes, experimented with life, chased excitement and shared it with the world. I want to fall in love with the work I do, to an extent that it won’t feel like work. Even if I commit myself to it for 80+ hours in a week, it will be because nothing could bring me as much joy as doing it. I cannot digest the pre-conceived notion that you must put yourself through torture for years to gain credible ‘work experience’, and I certainly won’t waste life trying to build a resume. I feel resume is something you build for others, life is something you do for yourself. If you’re living enough, things on the resume will add up on their own.

I have this feeling that if I pursue the work that is fulfilling to me, makes an impact while giving me flexibility in life, I won’t need to prove anything.

“Finding new ways to deal with the world is superior to overtraining old patterns.”- Peter Belvin