Gabrielle Chanel was raised by nuns in an orphanage after her mother died, and father abandoned her. At 18, she decided, that it was time to leave and explore the world. She started working as a seamstress, where she had an encounter with a charming army man, you swept her off her feet and asked her to come away with him to his countryhouse. The thing with him though was, that he needed women for pleasure, and as soon as Chanel realised that he would never marry her, she just knew she had to leave him. During her time at his countryhouse, however, she met his best friend Boy Capel; who found her irresistible, and wanted her in every way. However, Chanel by now, betrayed by two men who should’ve loved her, was more focused on her business (at that time- making hats) and did not want to dependent on anyone. As time passed, her business grew, she secured more and more customers, Capel and Chanel fell in love. Their love story was so touching, he gave her the world, and couldn’t be without her but then the war happened and he had to serve his nation. He came back though, but, his father insisted that he marry a sophisticated woman, who also was his god-daughter. Capel, under much pressure, had to leave Chanel, but it wasn’t long before he realised that he had made the greatest mistake of his life. He called her, told her, that he was coming back for her; but died in a car accident on the way. Chanel was broken, he was the love of her life, but she channelled all that energy into work.
This story to me, speaks volumes, about a woman who was dealt the worst possible hands in life, but she endured it all. With much elegance, and grace, she realised early that she must not be dependant on others, and focused on classics rather than the fashion at that time.
“My life didn’t please me, so I created my life.”
It is so empowering to realise that YOU control your life, and the things that happen in it. The moment you stop feeling like you’re the victim of everything, and take charge, and be at the choosing end rather than receiving, you start owning your life.
“Men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness.”
Women who lack ambition and drive, are easy to deal with, because they can be told what to do, what to wear, and how to follow. You can tell them anything, they’ll bear, endure and survive. But I respect women, who have that spark, who want to swim upstream, and strive to be achievers. Such women, men find it challenging to deal with, because they are used to the society telling them how things should be. Only a strong, confident man, can handle a bold woman. I’m so over men who treat women as their inferiors, and think that the kitchen is where they belong; because it is women who the men use as pillows to hide at night. Chanel said it herself, “As long as you know men are like children, you know everything!”
“Some people think luxury is the opposite of poverty. It is not. It is the opposite of vulgarity.”
I believe it is not luxury that defines your style, but your style defines the luxury that you own. Most people now, buy things, because it makes them feel associated with a brand, and thus, the people who use it too. For me, it doesn’t matter where you buy things from, but what you buy that defines you. If you have style, you won’t treat brands, as brands, because they won’t matter. The brands need to enhance YOU/ your personal brand, rather than blind people from afar.
“How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.”
Stop treating your life as insignificant. Stop trying to be things to people, be a person that people would want to be associated with.
“Those who create are rare; those who cannot are numerous. Therefore, the latter are stronger.”
Don’t let the voice that is stronger just because of the numbers, drown that voice inside you. You can be anything you want, a creator, a designer, a celebrity, anything- just choose to be it, and never look back- but be prepared, you won’t feel like you ‘fit in’ anymore (and that’s a good thing!).
“In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.”
Be different, be unique, be your own brand.